Friends / The Qualities of True Friends

- by Jeannette Ng
SMK Dato' Penggawa Timur
Masai, Johor

Throughout our life, we encounter many people and make friends. But among these hundreds or perhaps thousands of people we meet, only a handful of them are our true friends. So, you might ask, what are the qualities that true friends should possess?

First of all, true friends will help us when we are in trouble. As the saying goes, ‘a friend in need is a friend indeed’. How true it is. Despite the fact that they might grumble, they will still help us until the end. True friends stand by you when you are sad or are teased by the others. In their opinion, they are the only ones who can tease or ‘bully’ you. True friends try their best to make you smile when you are upset.

True friends do not flatter you. Instead, they keep on teasing and criticising you. Although their teases and criticism might sound sarcastic at times, they are actually for your own good. We should beware of those who keep flattering us as they might have ulterior motives. True friends always correct us and give us good advice, or at least try their best to do so. They want you to improve and do not try to harm you. Hurting your feelings is the last thing they will ever do.

True friends are someone whom you consider trustworthy. You can confide your secrets to them and they will not reveal your confidential matters to anyone. Sometimes, it is difficult to trust human beings as we tend to have the urge to spread news or secrets. But true friends try their best to keep your secrets.

True friends can also be your very own motivators. They motivate you to do better. They stand by you when you are fighting. They will give you encouragement and strength to continue fighting.

To put it in a nutshell, true friends never betray you or stab you in the back in any situation. They are also trustworthy. Even though they can be irritating and annoying sometimes, they actually help to shape your personality positively. Consequently, you become a better person in the future. Since true friends are not easy to find, we should always treasure and value them.